Our team of professional Aging Life Care Managers® serve the East Phoenix Valley area of Tempe, Mesa, Scottsdale, Gilbert and surrounding areas. We help families navigate healthcare, manage dementia or Alzheimer’s, mobility issues, disabilities or other challenges coupled with aging or disability. We are consultants that help coordinate options for care and do not provide hands-on care. We do help find hands-on care if needed.

Emotionally, the sandwich generation faces the struggle of balancing the needs of two very different generations. The guilt of feeling like we’re not doing enough for either our parents or our children can be overwhelming. We are constantly pulled in different directions, trying to provide the best care and support we can, often at the expense of our own health and personal time. This is where the help of Aging Life Care Managers® from our team will provide support and guidance to help ease the stress.

Leana and her brother moved their mother, A.L., to Tempe to be closer to her. With both her children living in the Phoenix area, it just made sense that A.L. would move to Arizona from Delaware. Leana was responsible for all the caregiver duties; running her mother to the doctor, setting up her medication in boxes, shopping for her and visiting her on a regular basis. Her brother managed all the financial matters. At the time, Leana worked full time. Balancing her mother’s needs, her personal life and her full-time job was becoming overwhelming.

Then her mother had a stroke. The stroke left A.L. with expressive aphasia (difficulty verbally expressing herself). She now had even more doctor appointments and therapy in addition to what was already in place. Adding to her responsibilities, Leana now had a 3-month-old baby. Feeling totally in over her head, Leana and her brother agreed to hire Desert Care Management (DCM) to assist in caring for their mother. DCM now takes A.L. to all her medical appointments, goes in, takes notes and shares the information with the children as well as the other doctors. This has improved their mother’s care and the follow thru from each appointment. Although Leana still helps her mother with shopping, setting up her medication, and tasks around her apartment, she feels a weight has been lifted and that she can spend more time being a daughter and less time as a caregiver. Our team does not do hands on care but if Leana feels that they need help finding a good in-home care agency, we will help them find one that provides the type of care that A.L. needs.

Now Leana has a new challenge. Her 92-year-old grandmother in Delaware is starting to need help and the neighbors are calling her with concerns. Leana and her brother want to keep their grandmother in her home as long as possible, so she is considering hiring a Care Manager in Delaware to be boots on the ground for her and oversee her grandmother’s care. If it gets to the point that her grandmother needs to be moved to Arizona, we will work directly with the Care Manager in Delaware to make sure that everything goes smoothly.

If you are experiencing stress and overwhelm as a sandwich generation member, please reach out. We can help as little or as much as you need to provide the best care for your aging loved one.